Hello everyone, an update on Birth Louisville offerings. Like all of you, I have been intently following reports of Coronavirus Disease 2019 (COVID-19) and considering the many ways in which its future course might alter my life and the lives of my students and clients. On March 17th, I made the decision to move my classes from an in person format to a live virtual classroom via Zoom in accordance with CDC guidelines for social distancing. Six weeks into this pandemic, I have realized that expectant parents need community and connection now more than ever as they grieve so many losses. My March classes just wrapped up, and students told me that they found value and comfort in talking with other expectant parents every week about the challenges they are facing. If you’re feeling alone, or if you’re anxious about your upcoming birth–please join us. Information is power, and community support is priceless.

I will continue to provide birth education and support in the virtual classroom for as long as I can–I have no plans to cancel anything–the babies don’t know there’s a pandemic going on! I have received several questions about what Empowered Birth looks like in a virtual format, so I’ve created a FAQ that will hopefully answer your questions! Please use the Contact Me form if you have a question you don’t see addressed here.

Is this a recorded class or is it live?

This is a live class. We meet at the same time every week, just as we would in an in person setting. I send out a Zoom link about a week before our first class and that link serves as weekly access.

What does a typical class look like?

In Class 2: Coping With Pain, we learn about pain theories and comfort measures during each stage of labor. We start with a survey–mom thinks about a time when she’s been in pain, and checks off boxes for all of the things that have worked for her. We then talk about how the pain of labor is different than that of an appendix rupturing, or a headache. I share some slides about pain theories and demonstrate counter pressure and touch relaxation techniques (massage, effleurage and stroking). Parents practice these techniques after my demo. Several parents have commented that it’s valuable to learn comfort measures in the very place where they’ll spend part of their labor–in their homes! We watch a video on vocalization, and then talk about which comfort measures moms often turn to during each stage of labor. We finish up with labor positions practice–I show positions on my screen and moms & partners try them out to see which positions feel “open.” Before we know it, class time is over!

Are there materials I need to participate? How do I access those?

Yes, I will put a packet in the mail to you before class begins. This packet includes handouts, cards for games and activities during class, photos for “grab bag” activities and so on. Some websites and resources will be emailed to you.

I can’t make any of the class dates, is there another option?

Yes, we can get you set up with a private class. Please send an inquiry through the Contact Me page and we can talk about the details.

I’d love to join but I don’t live anywhere near you–is that okay?

Of course! If you’re expecting a baby and you have access to a phone or computer–you’re in!

I lost my job recently due to COVID-19 and funds are tight. Can you work with me on the class fee?

Absolutely. Just send me a note–use the Contact Me form on the website. I don’t need your tax returns or paystubs or anything like that. Just let me know what’s going on and how I can help. I understand that times are hard for so many right now and I don’t want money to keep anyone from having access to information that they need.

I hope that helps you to envision what birth class looks like online–join us in the comfort of your own home–on your couch, during your dinner, in your pajamas–it’s your call. Hope to see you in class!

Nearly everything about becoming a parent requires that you give up control.  When will baby be born?  How long will labor last?  What kind of labor will you get?  How much pain?  What kind of baby will you get?  How many times a day will baby breastfeed?  So many unknowns.

As humans, we like to quantify things and experiences.  We want to know how much and when because we want to be in control.  Surrendering to the process is difficult and challenging!  Numbers and data usually help us make judgments and sense out of situations.   But this isn’t always the case in labor.  Sometimes having numbers can complicate everything.

When I’m talking about numbers, I’m talking about cervical checks.  A cervical check means that a provider inserts two fingers into the vagina to examine the cervix.  The provider feels the cervix on each side for consistency, position, dilation and effacement.  Sometimes women want them before labor starts to make sure their bodies are getting ready–except the exams don’t tell you when labor will (or won’t) start.   During labor, sometimes women ask for them, and sometimes care providers want to do them to see if progress is being made–except the exam doesn’t always predict when a baby will be born.  A woman can go from 4 centimeters to having her baby in her arms in a couple of hours.  So what gives?

Here are two questions to ask yourself before you have a cervical exam:

1. What do I need to hear?  

2.  What will I do with the information that I get? 

I’ve lost track of how many times a mom asked for a cervical check during labor because she needed reassurance that her body was doing what it needed to do.  So I started asking, “What do you want to hear?”  Sometimes they had expectations that weren’t appropriate and we would talk about that.  Sometimes just the talk about progress and what that means would help her feel better and we didn’t need the exam.  But you (general you!) have to be prepared to hear information that you don’t want to hear, and how will that impact your labor?

If the information from the cervical exam helps you to get treatment for pre term labor, if you use that information to choose (or avoid!) pitocin or an epidural–great.  If you can use the information from the exam to make a decision,  there’s your reason to have an exam.  If you want to do it because you need reassurance, or you’re worried–let’s talk first.

Happy 7th birthday Hank!

I met Hank’s parents, Nicole & Matt, in my March 2012 Empowered Birth series.  I will never forget this group of parents for a couple of reasons.  First, we had *three* pre term births in the class.  Three babies decided to arrive at 34 weeks during the class series.  Thankfully all of the babies did great thanks to care from the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit.  Secondly–this class was quiet.  Like really really quiet.  There was one dad who liked to laugh and joke around but everyone else was 100% serious, 100% of the time.   I’d ask a question and they would stare.  I’d make a joke and more staring.  I went down in flames on a weekly basis.

I always suggest to my classes that they stay in touch to support each other.  They surprised me when they exchanged contact information and set up a class Facebook group..  Shortly after class ended, the rest of the babies began to arrive.  It seemed like we got a birth announcement every week.  Friendships and relationships blossomed between moms, dads and babies.  They got together every week and later they even celebrated holidays together.  It was truly a beautiful thing to see them support one another and grow as parents within this village they created.

Anyhow, Nicole & Matt were the caboose of our class with the latest due date.   Matt messaged me on Facebook after the first day of labor and he kept me updated through day two.   So a long labor *and* their poor doula, Cindy, had a terrible case of chiggers.  At some point on day three I went to the hospital, in my pajama pants, to drop off coffee and an in person pep talk.   Little did I know that I’d be staying for the birth, and gaining two friends for life.  In my relatively short time at this birth I helped Matt fire a nurse, we had endless laughs,  a couple of serious conversations,  I learned how to use a fancy camera, and the term “toulas” came to be (toulas=two doulas, as in me and Cindy).   Once we got to postpartum, I fed Nicole a Jimmy John’s sandwich because she was literally too tired to feed herself.  There really is nothing a doula won’t do for you, folks.

So happy happy birthday to you, dear Hank.  I’m grateful you and the other kids were born, and I’m grateful for all of your moms & dads.  What a gift you all are to one another and to me, too.

 

Happy Thanksgiving to all.  We have stayed incredibly busy this fall with Liam’s first semester of high school, new responsibilities for Brad at work, Beckett’s martial arts regimen, welcoming a new family member (my niece Rowan, born August 28th!) and I’ve been attending births & designing new classes!   Today, we are headed out as a family to spend the holiday together in South Carolina.  I am incredibly thankful to spend my days with these incredible humans and our sweet West Highland Terrier, Angus.  I’m so thankful that I get to live life with them.  Hug your people and your pets and have  a wonderful weekend.

Thank you to my friend Nicole Aldridge of NZA Photography for this beautiful photo.

www.nzaphotography.com